Tuesday, October 25, 2005
Big Boy Bed
This is the third night in a row for Aden to sleep in his own bed and the third time for him to kiss mommy and daddy on their lips before going beddy-bye. Actually, he doesn't really have a bed. We took the mattress out of his crib and put it on the floor. He does not like his crib at all.
Aden's been sleeping with us in our bed since he was born. I think he got traumatized in his crib. A lot of people (with and without kids) have been giving me advice on teaching my baby to sleep on his own. They tell me to let him cry himself to sleep. Aden is very strong willed and I remember, letting him cry for 2hours. I ended up feeling guilty and I swear I would never allow that to happen again. From that time on, every time he sees his crib, he'd start throwing a fit.
My best advice to moms, especially new moms is to follow your instinct. Every child is different and nobody knows your child more than you do.
When Aden was younger, a lot of people including his pediatrician told me that babies need to sleep in their own crib, in their own room from day 1. Well, there has been a lot of media lately claiming that sleeping with your baby in an adult bed is unsafe and can result in accidental smothering of an infant. I never really agreed with that concept since my upbringing was different. I slept with my mom or grandparents whenever I want with no ifs and buts.
I believe the answer is not to tell parents they shouldn't sleep with their baby, but rather to educate them on how to sleep with their infants safely. Or, if they are not comfortable or if their bed is not big enough, consider a bedside co-sleeper.
Anyway, I've discussed this issue with other moms I know and they all have different views about it. Some moms who let their babies sleep with them say they do it because they've read somewhere, and I know I've heard this too, that babies tend to be more secure. Other moms say it's unsafe, some say it's a privacy issue and, majority of them say they discover their independence sooner.
I have no regrets on my decision to let Aden sleep with us. I see more pros than cons. It was much easier for me to transition him to a bed. I just know that he feels trapped in a crib.
I cannot turn back time and my little Aden will only be a baby once. I'm glad I’m spending this part of my life fully dedicated to him. He knows that mommy and daddy are just there if he needs them.
Aden's been sleeping with us in our bed since he was born. I think he got traumatized in his crib. A lot of people (with and without kids) have been giving me advice on teaching my baby to sleep on his own. They tell me to let him cry himself to sleep. Aden is very strong willed and I remember, letting him cry for 2hours. I ended up feeling guilty and I swear I would never allow that to happen again. From that time on, every time he sees his crib, he'd start throwing a fit.
My best advice to moms, especially new moms is to follow your instinct. Every child is different and nobody knows your child more than you do.
When Aden was younger, a lot of people including his pediatrician told me that babies need to sleep in their own crib, in their own room from day 1. Well, there has been a lot of media lately claiming that sleeping with your baby in an adult bed is unsafe and can result in accidental smothering of an infant. I never really agreed with that concept since my upbringing was different. I slept with my mom or grandparents whenever I want with no ifs and buts.
I believe the answer is not to tell parents they shouldn't sleep with their baby, but rather to educate them on how to sleep with their infants safely. Or, if they are not comfortable or if their bed is not big enough, consider a bedside co-sleeper.
Anyway, I've discussed this issue with other moms I know and they all have different views about it. Some moms who let their babies sleep with them say they do it because they've read somewhere, and I know I've heard this too, that babies tend to be more secure. Other moms say it's unsafe, some say it's a privacy issue and, majority of them say they discover their independence sooner.
I have no regrets on my decision to let Aden sleep with us. I see more pros than cons. It was much easier for me to transition him to a bed. I just know that he feels trapped in a crib.
I cannot turn back time and my little Aden will only be a baby once. I'm glad I’m spending this part of my life fully dedicated to him. He knows that mommy and daddy are just there if he needs them.
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